Author Archives: AJ Kumar

How to Win an Argument

ArgumentsThe ultimate goal for an argument is not to have a contest to see who can yell the loudest, it’s about having the other person(s) believe and agree on your point of view.  Being a powerful communicator means that you must be able to Continue reading

Food is the New Weather

Coversation TopicsMany people have a hard time having a conversation with people that they DON’T know. In many cases, it’s because they are unsure of what to talk about. I was surprisingly very shy as a child and throughout my teen years.  Having conversations with complete strangers practically caused me to cringe!

Throughout my years of studying human behavior, I’ve trained myself with the ability to converse with no fear. Having exceptional conversational skills is a necessity if you plan on being a Continue reading

Create a Goal – Make it Work

do goals work

Has there ever been a time when you decided to write down your goals and then never looked at them again?

Why do you think that is? Beside the fact that only 50% of the world are motivated by goals, most people are simply too lazy, careless, or just forget.
The only way that goals can work are by doing one thing: Continue reading

Selling Yourself

Selling YourselfVirtually everyone who is successful in life all share one trait: powerful communication. This level of communication is not just with the people around them, it starts within oneself. Knowingly believing in yourself by having:

  • the confidence
  • the self-assurance
  • the charisma

When you learn the points above, you will begin to Continue reading

The Pursuit of Happiness

HappinessI need to get a relationship, that might make me happy. I need to find a better job, maybe that will make me happy. I need to be rich, then I’ll BE HAPPY for sure! We all think that happiness will come in the future after something is attained or accomplished. Unfortunately, this is a common misconception that most people believe which ironically becomes the   Continue reading

The Needs That Influence the Way We Live Our Lives

Needs

Certainty – Humans are beings of comfort and complacency. It is true that there is no guaranteed certainty, however, we much want certainty that we will live to see tomorrow, that the electricity works, you still have your job.

Uncertainty – Ironically, with too much certainty our lives would simply be Continue reading

NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming

The 1970s and 80s were a boom-time in applied psychology. EST, TM and a host of other self-help and interpersonal relationship methods sprang up, took the spotlight for awhile and then died off. The roots of NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) lie in this same fertile soil and the movement to explain and explore human interactions. Unlike the other, failed methodologies, NLP has survived and grown.

Googling the three letters, NLP, now produces more than 15 million hits. From an original idea of mapping communication, NLP has become a complete and useful science.
NLP is all around you, although it might be invisible now. When a commercial asks you to: ‘buy now’, ‘last chance’, ‘sign up today’, or ‘call now’ – that’s NLP in action. When a politician reads a compelling speech and pumps up his base – that’s NLP in use. Top executives use it and marketing agencies rely on it. Some of the best uses I have seen in practice are in infomercials and television evangelists. You can almost bet that whenever you found yourself drawn to buy or do something and whenever you have been strongly swayed toward a different point of view, NLP techniques were involved.

The What, How, and Why

What does neuro-linguistic programming stand for?

  • Neuro – refers to neurology, the mind, and the brain. It’s the workshop of NLP.
  • Linguistic – refers the language, verbal and other, that we use as a tool in this workshop.
  • Programming – highlights the ability to change (or program) with language – our minds and the minds of others.

Under the catch-all term NLP you will find many techniques to communicate, connect, and influence the way people think – what they think about and how they think about it.
How does NLP achieve this?

  • First, by understanding the underlying mechanisms of thought – where opinions and beliefs come from.
  • Next, by understanding the links between language and thoughts. This is done through modeling, or constructing relationships between what is said and the resulting actions.
  • Finally, by distilling important relationships and techniques into methods that can be taught.

Why is NLP in such demand today?

It became obvious that NLP was more than a simple self-help and communication technique. Business people (especially salesmen) quickly saw the potential and advantages of accessing communication at a deeper level. NLP became a way to influence and connect with a level of thinking unreachable before.