It is easy for me to say that a lot of people surround themselves with losers. If you want to become successful, rich, or happy, you should do whatever it takes to grow, right?
As human beings, we must grow, because like a business, if we don’t grow, we die. I don’t mean literally die, but I mean mentally and socially.
How Can You Classify One as Being a Loser?
- No job (not looking hard enough)
- No money (lack of motivation to make it)
- Party all the time (unless it’s related to your job)
- Too much drugs
- Too much focus on girls (for guys, mainly 18-25)
- Willingness to NOT step out of your comfort zone
I agree that the term “loser” sounds bad, but it is the best way for me to get your attention. If you are surrounding yourself with people who fit the criteria listed above, you will be brought down to their level. I believe I read this in a book, please do correct me if I’m wrong, but if you take the income of 10 of your closest friends, or people you hang around the most, take the average, your income will equal close to that amount. If you hang around people who make no money, then chances are, you are making little to no money.
LAY DOWN WITH DOGS, AND YOU WILL COME UP WITH FLEAS
Surround Yourself With Successful People
What should you do? My good friend Neil Patel has told me that this year, he wants to befriend 5 billionaires. WOW, what a goal! I personally know of maybe 1 or 2 millionaires and that’s probably on no more than a first name basis. It’s hard for me to even fathom befriending 1 billionaire.
The idea is so simple though so pay close attention: Imagine being able to spend one hour with a successful business tycoon like Donald Trump. Do you think you’ll learn something that will help you make money? Of course!
Setup a goal to meet someone who makes 10x the income you do. Don’t get smart with me and say 10 x zero is =zero :). If your goal is not about money, then find someone who does what you want to do at a measurable 10x higher level.
Where Do You Find These People?
This is the question I usually get right after I tell someone to find new friends. The answer is: network like crazy! Out of everyone you know, I will bet that they know someone who is successful or they might know someone who knows someone that is at the level you are looking for.
Read my blog on building rapport and learn to sell yourself. There is always a way to find successful people, you just have to make the effort.
Go to a seminar in an industry you have interest in and you will come across many like-minded individuals. If you decide not to go through with making an effort, then you should transform your mindset and change.
Nothing is Wrong With Not Wanting to be Rich
Let me clarify, not being a loser, doesn’t mean you have to be someone who is interested in making a tons of money. What I mean is that you should surround yourself with people who are interested in growing mentally,physically, financially, or even spiritually.
The more people you have around you that put genuine interest in growing, the easier it will be for you to transform your mind to win.
Do You Have Losers in Your Life?
Chances are that after you read this, you will begin to nod your head and say, “Yes AJ I totally agree with you.”
Losers mess up your entire mindset and hold you back from success.
And then the rest of you will be very confrontational and write a nasty comment about my outlandish blog post below.
Look, many of you have these losers in your life that you still care for and maybe even people you’ve been friends with for 10+ years. However, the bottom line is, if they are unwilling to change their poor habits, are you willing to sacrifice your own success?
How to Get Rid of Losers
At this point, I assume that you have tried to help these losers out, but they still wouldn’t budge. Now it’s time to get rid of em’:
- Get out a sheet of paper and write on one side “Up-lifters” and the other side “Losers”
- Take everyone from the “Losers” side and clear their contact info from your phone, email, computer, phone book etc.
- If they call you to hang out or whatever, no need to be rude, just say you are busy working or something. Again, don’t be rude, let them know that you are busy working on growing your life.
- If you are interested in doing it in an extreme way like how I did it when I was 17, change your phone number and only give your new number to the “Up-lifters”.
So now my question to you is, are you going to do it? Are you going to get rid of the losers in your life?